We’re pretty tough. We can be harsh, judgmental and unforgiving.
Who is on the receiving end of this treatment?
Self-criticism can be a motivation to do better and improve – just like giving constructive criticism can help someone else make improvements. But it has to be constructive and not destructive.
So often we treat ourselves worse than we would anyone else.
We beat ourselves up.
We Expect Perfection and We Demand It Now
The things we tell ourselves are often things we would never say to someone else.
“Why do you have to be so stupid?”
“You’ll never make it.”
“You’re such an idiot.”
Unless you’re a total jerk – you would never say those things to someone. But yet, we find it acceptable to do to ourselves.
Showing self-compassion is one of the best things we can do for our well being. Self compassion is not about indulgence, selfishness or self-pity. It’s about giving yourself some grace.
Treat yourself kindly even if you’re suffering from the effects of poor choices you’ve made. It’s a cliché to say, “You’re only human.”
But really, it’s true.
The human condition is flawed. It has been since Adam and Eve and will continue to be until the End. Think of yourself as part of that big picture. Humanity needs compassion and that includes us.
We like to talk about God’s grace and compassion – but we think about extending it to others and we leave ourselves out.
Be kind to yourself today and give yourself some grace.
“Grace, then, is grace,–that is to say, it is sovereign, it is free, it is sure, it is unconditional, and it is everlasting.” ~ Alexander Whyte
Yolanda DeLoach (@YolandaDeLoach) is a member of Wesley UMC and through her writing, tries to remind herself to keep life light.